I can tick lots of boxes sex-wise and relationship-wise, yet I have never had anybody send me a Valentine's card, Valentine's gift, or celebrate it with me in any way at all. This makes me very sad, in both senses of the word. I would rather trade a whole year of the best kissing and the best sex for the Valentine's day experience.
Have you been surprised or treated or celebrated at other, more random times?
I'd much rather have someone spoil me rotten just because they want to then and there on a day other than February 14th than have a Valentine's day experience.
I have received the occasional gift, yes, and they have been lovely. However I have never gone on a dinner date (or other kind of outing that didn't involve a big huge screen), had a romantic dinner cooked for me, or anything else like that.
I would love somebody to spoil me rotten at any time of year, but they didn't, haven't, and still don't.
Isn't it kind of sad that Valentine's day has been so over-hyped that people would rather have a single, probably rather insincere media-led gesture than something real, meaningful and lasting?
Possibly. I'm sure that's true for a lot of people, however I have many friends in long-term loving relationships who have Valentine's celebrations that are incredibly sincere. On the other hand I have been in long-term relationships that lacked any kind of sincerity at any time of the year.
You have assumed when I said great sex and great kissing that it was with one, long-term lasting partner. I would like to consider - just once - swapping that great sex and great kissing for one of those sincere Valentine's nights, for the romance.
My mother always said of Mother's Day that "I'd rather you treat me like shit all year or treat me great all year. Don't try to make up for a year of shit with one day of great." I have held that to be true of all holidays since then.
I am sorry you haven't had a proper Valentine's Day. Perhaps you could give one to yourself? I usually treat myself to a lovely day on the 14th; I've never celebrated it with anyone, either (my ex-partner and I weren't big on holidays), but celebrating it with yourself can be more than enough.
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(Anonymous) 2009-02-13 12:32 pm (UTC)(link)I'd much rather have someone spoil me rotten just because they want to then and there on a day other than February 14th than have a Valentine's day experience.
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(Anonymous) 2009-02-13 09:05 pm (UTC)(link)I would love somebody to spoil me rotten at any time of year, but they didn't, haven't, and still don't.
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(Anonymous) 2009-02-13 09:14 pm (UTC)(link)You have assumed when I said great sex and great kissing that it was with one, long-term lasting partner. I would like to consider - just once - swapping that great sex and great kissing for one of those sincere Valentine's nights, for the romance.
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(Anonymous) 2009-02-13 02:52 pm (UTC)(link)I am sorry you haven't had a proper Valentine's Day. Perhaps you could give one to yourself? I usually treat myself to a lovely day on the 14th; I've never celebrated it with anyone, either (my ex-partner and I weren't big on holidays), but celebrating it with yourself can be more than enough.
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